It’s funny, some times, I think there is something in air.
What I mean is, very often it happens that many of my coaching conversations have a theme. And this week, that theme was all about actions and reactions.
So I thought that would be a perfect Ladies Who Lunch conversation starter for today.
Ok, so I believe that cultivating beautiful relationships and love the most important ways to find happiness. Everything we do, think and strive for in our life revolves around being and feeling loved and important.
That is why relationships are so important. Everything in our lives hinges on the relationships we have, make and cultivate. But this is also where so much of our conflict come from.
Relationships are tough. Even the best relationships have their struggles because we all human, and all humans have baggage. And it is normally this baggage that gets in our way.
This week, one of my clients was upset about a business situation where her colleague was very rude and dismissive of her. (She is a very successful and accomplished women btw #ladyboss). She was telling me this story and although, she was saying that it didn’t bother her and that she knows it was him and not her, that is just rude…the very fact that we were talking about it means that if hurt her and that it triggered something in her belief system.
People and their actions make up the biggest triggers for us and it’s because we value relationships so much.
But here is the thing, the action or incident may have triggered our feelings, but we aren’t reacting to their action, we are reacting to the way the action made us feel. The incident wouldn’t bother us if that conversation or a part of that conversation weren’t already part of our mental conversation.
So we get upset or hurt or angry…or all three!.
But we have a choice to not let this spiral out of control. We can stop this downward spiral before it gets out of control by first being aware of what is really going on what is really going on. And what is really going on, is that what is coming up is not their shiz, it’s OUR own shiz!
And just being aware of this, lessens the grip it has and then give you the space to dig deep and really gain a better understanding of what exactly that shiz is!
And when we can see the truth of where our feels are coming from, we can choose not to internalize them.
Instead we will gain a better understanding love for ourselves and the other person…this is where we choose love.
So choose love my friends. Be Happy
With love,
Sally
