So one day, I was at my middle daughter, Quinn’s soccer practice a few weeks ago and my 3 year old daughter takes my phone and turns on Taylor Swift and started dancing. She loves to dance and when she dances, she really gets after it. There are some serious hip shakes, lots of strong arm gyrations, accompanied by a really awesome “Blue Steel” look on your face. It’s very intense, she is jiving and feelin’ it with her whole person, it’s awesome, and I love it!
Well, this was all happening in the mist of a bunch of other mothers out there for soccer practice. These ladies stop their conversation (they are all friends prior to this soccer year) and are watching the “Piper show.”
One of the mothers say something like, “Wow, look at her!” and I said, laughing, “Ha, Ha! She loves to dance! And really, Who doesn’t love Taylor Swift!?”
And she replied, “ Oh, I don’t really know her songs, we normally listening to kids music in the car, like Veggie Tales.”
In that moment, I started to get flustered and those #shame alarm bells started sounding. My mind started to translate that simple all about her statement into the #judgmental all about me statement of “Wow! You let your kids listen to bad stuff in the car and dance provocatively in public You must be a #badmom.” And this story that I was telling myself could have totally spun out of control for me, but I was able to stop. Because the truth is, I don’t know for sure what her motives were for saying what she said. Maybe it was pure fact she was expressing or maybe she was judging me a bit, but honestly either way it doesn’t matter because her statement was all about her. And whatever her motives, thoughts, observations, parenting style or music choices are, she is a human woman and she is doing her best, just like me. And this will set you free. In this space, you have the ability to create tap into compassion and live in nonjudgement for yourself and the people around you, and that creates freedom to love more absolutely.
And so I choose to stop the cray, cray story I was telling myself, and feel compassion for myself and for her in that moment, so I said “Oh man, she’s the best, we love her whole Album.”
And I pretty sure by this time Piper, was on to the next song and was singing the words to Taylor Swift’s “Bad Blood” at the top of her lungs.
So that’s the thing, it’s often not reality that is creating hurt and resentment inside of you, it’s the stories we telling ourselves about what the situations we are in.
So stop it, you don’t need anymore garbage and judgment in your head, clouding your thoughts and drawing the bears.
And what I do know for sure, is that I want to have rockin’ girl-power music in my life, like the sick beats Miss Taylor Swift pumps out!
Also, let’s take a life lesson from my Piper, do what feels good and experience it with your whole-self and if you feel like singing at the top of your lungs in public, do it! In fact, I think we should make our voice heard more often, we would all be better off if we did that more often.
Have Fun and Create Joy, my friends!
Be love & Light,
Sally
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